Last April, my cousin Ben was killed in a car accident when another driver ran a stop sign and hit Ben's car going 55+ mph. It shook us all to the core and it's sort of hard to believe that was a year ago. The anniversary of the accident is on Saturday. I've been feeling the grief again this week as the date gets closer, and I grieve for my aunt and uncle as the very painful date of their son's death comes upon them.
Sadly, the month of April just got a lot more difficult in terms of loss. There was more grief today as I received the news that one of my very best friends in the entire world lost her dad. Some of you may have known Stan Thornburg and maybe you are grieving today as well.
Stan came to our church as a pastor when I was about 13. His daughter Haley and I almost immediately latched onto each other like we needed each other for survival. This meant lots of time spent at Haley's house, where we pestered Stan with teenage girl antics until the cows came home. I don't know how the poor man handled it. But he never complained, even as Haley and I made way too much noise into the middle of the night during sleepovers (we tend to laugh hysterically - constantly - whenever we're together). He would happily drive us to the mall and back whenever we asked. He would only occasionally throw glares our way while Haley and I loudly munched on Gardettos during one of his sermons. He would calmly pick up the phone to let Haley and I know that he really needed to make a phone call and would sadly have to end one of our hours-long conversations. I had seen him only a handful of times in the past few years, but he always had a joke ready and then would seamlessly transition into letting me know that he continued to keep me in prayer.
He had one of the most fantastic personalities with a killer sense of humor. But you could always count on him to be serious when needed. To be a prayer warrior for you, to care deeply about what was happening in your life. He provided love and stability for me like I was his own daughter. Stan was a wonderful pastor, a great friend, and I am so so so happy that I was able to know him.
Lots of tears have fallen today. This loss is huge. I struggle with comprehending that Stan is really gone, because it doesn't seem possible. I know there are lots of people out there today feeling the same way. He was loved, and he will be greatly missed.